Psalm 86 - Val Duvick - Mother's Day Collection Day 10

A Mother's Day Collection: Letters through the Psalms

For you are great and do wondrous things;
you alone are God.
Teach me your way, O LORD,
that I may walk in your truth;
unite my heart to fear your name.
I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart,
and I will glorify your name forever.
For great is your steadfast love toward me;
you have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol.

Psalm 86:10-13

Oh, dear friend, I imagine this time is not an easy one for you. Whether your grief reappears significantly or guilt sets in for how “okay” you seem to be doing...the struggle for balance in your heart is REAL, valid, and you’re not alone.

Throughout the different stages of my grief I have both cried and hurt deeply over the life we lost, and wondered if I was heartless when the emotion seemed to have passed. 

But friend, hear me say this: Guilt has NO place in your story, because you are faithfully loved, fully forgiven, and God IS who he says he is. (I recommend revisiting Romans 8 as a sweet reminder of this)

As you read this Psalm, I pray you would take in these beautiful and encouraging truths:

v 10) God alone is God. Only HE can be all-knowing, fully GOOD, and fully trustworthy. This is not only a reminder of our humble and deep need for him, but a reminder to remember who God is and what that means for us, even in the midst of our grief. Breathe deeply a few of my favorite characteristics of God:

  • God is just. Although this life, deeply scarred by sin, often feels unfair... God is still just. His ways are right, his ways are good, and as his creation and humble servants, we can yield to his ways with peace, confidence and trust. 

  • God is perfect. He cannot fail. He cannot make a wrong choice. His plan for us and our babies is perfect and we can rest in that. Although death is a painful result of sin’s presence in our world, our babies are now being cared for in the most just, perfect way and that is cause for joy! I find so much peace knowing that my sweet babe spends his days in the presence of our good, good father in a place with no hurt and no pain. 

  • The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness and God’s power is made perfect in our weakness. I know you’ve heard this before...but do you believe it? Do you walk in it? Your weakness, every kind of weakness, in every moment, is a beautiful opportunity to rely on Christ and to bring him glory. This is an honor and truly does bring us closer to him in a way that joyful times may not.

v 11) We can rely on his faithfulness. I think one of the hardest parts of our humanity is our lack of ability to fully comprehend God. This often comes out in our hesitation to really trust and believe that he is faithful, that his promises are true, and that even when we don’t understand or don’t have the answers we crave, we can rely on his faithfulness. It takes trust. It takes faith. It’s not simple, but it’s more than worth it.

v 13) He has delivered us from the depths. Although we may think of our loss when we read “the depths,” the true depths God delivered us from is our sin. The eternal separation and condemnation we deserved. That is what God delivered us from. That is the true root of the joy we can have as believers and the true reason we can praise him even in the midst of loss and deep pain. May we never lose sight of the incredible, undeserved gift that grace and deliverance from our sin is. We deserve the worst...yet we have been given the best...relationship with the one true God who loves us and loves our babies more than we can fathom.

Friend, I pray that you would rest in the truth and joy of the gospel in this time. Your pain is real and the hurt you feel is valid, but our God is greater and ready to carry it all on your behalf. 




Val is a business coach for creative entrepreneurs, wife to her college sweetheart, Mark, and brand new Mama to Alea! She’s an ambitious deep feeler, propelled by God’s grace and fueled by decaf vanilla lattes. She finds deep joy in walking closely alongside other creative boss ladies as they dream big dreams from the heart and build intentional, healthy businesses. A few of her favorite things in life include musical worship, natural light, watercolor florals, blush and coral anything, pointy toe flats and Chipotle chips & guac.



Hi Friend, Ashlee here. Below is a song that I encourage you to listen to. I thought it would be a beautiful way to enter into worship as you begin your day and dwell on the Psalm above. Praying that you would feel the closeness and peace of the Lord as you walk forward today.

It Is Well, by Bethel Music & Kristene DiMarco