Binding Lies and the Truths that Set Us Free- A Guest Post by Julia Dembeck

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Friends, This is a post that was written by my dear friend and sister, Julia. I have known Julia since our Sophmore year in college! She had just transferred in from a different school and was living right next door. We became friends instantly and the Lord has grown our friendship ever since! We have gone through engagements, weddings, family struggles, parenthood and loss. Both her and I experienced miscarriages around the same time. She was my friend who was constantly encouraging me with truth and prayers and it was a joy to be able to offer that same comfort to her when she experienced the loss of their baby. She is a wife, a mama of 2 boys, an encourager and a fighter for the Gospel! I pray her words today would be a blessing to you and a challenge as you dwell on where you are. -Ashlee


I needed to just get milk, toilet paper, toothpaste and a card. It was supposed to be a simple, quick Target trip. But instead of an “easy” trip, I found myself overcome by anger and bitterness as I saw moms with their sweet babies and all the cute baby clothes displayed. In a few minutes I went from feeling pretty good strolling through Target to being angry and thinking,

"something must be wrong with me, what if I never get pregnant, I probably can’t get pregnant, why doesn’t God care…."

These lies, plus many more lies, seemed to plague me at the most random times and send me down a vicious cycle of darkness and defeat. It was as if I’d go from a happy, or at least “normal state”, to spiraling into a mess.  

One of Satan’s greatest tactics is to get us to the point of questioning God’s character, His promises and get us to focus on ourselves instead of God– which causes us to believe lies over truth.

From the very beginning we see how Satan gets Eve to question God’s character and make her doubt…


He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You  shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?”  And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’” But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die.  For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” Genesis 3:1-6 ESV

Like Eve, it is hard to initially identify Satan’s craftiness as a lie and doubting God’s goodness.

The thoughts I had seemed legitimate and truthful

They seemed accurate and justifiable.

They didn’t appear to be lies so I wasn’t sure how to combat the thoughts and dig out of the pit I found myself in.  

I thought I’d always be stuck in the feelings.

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I was sharing with my counselor about the “negative spirals” that I would get into. She asked me, what was the negative thought and then the thoughts leading up to it—the triggers.  She bluntly and loving brought to my attention, “You are believing lies and not believing God’s truth.” I quickly defended why my thoughts were true--- I miscarried, so something must be wrong with my body. I haven’t been able to get pregnant- so maybe I never will. If God is loving, why would he let my baby die? How could he care?  

Maybe you have thought these same things and right now think yeah, that is true.

I want to validate those feelings and let you know yes, there may be some truth, but at the core is a lie—a lie doubting God and His Truth. What I learned that day talking with my counselor is that until you can identify the lies you're believing  you can’t step forward into freedom because you need to confess and release them in order to hold onto truth.

It is a process of confessing to the Lord the state of unbelief and asking for His help to believe. To turn our focus off of ourselves and back onto Jesus.  

I wish I could sit with you over a cup of coffee or go for a walk along the lake and hear your hearts and the thoughts that are the hardest for you?  Let’s pretend I am with you now…

  • Have you felt yourself in that spiral and questioning?

  • What were your preceding thoughts?

  • Can you identify any lies?

  • What would be a truth to combat that lie?

I encourage you to ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to see what you believe—write it down and find a truth that defeats the lie. A truth you can claim when the assaults from Satan come. It is God’s Word that sets us free.

Ashlee KaraschComment